13 Tips To Write A Winning Online Profile

Online Dating: 13 Tips To Write A Winning Online Profile
By Alison Edwards

How long do you spend getting ready for a night out? At a guess I would say that if you’re a woman you can probably spend 1 hour upwards preening and titivating and if you’re a man you can be showered, shaved and out of the door within 20 minutes (unless, of course, you’re a metro-sexual in which case you probably take longer than a woman!).

Now let me ask you how long you would spend (or have spent) writing a profile for an online dating site? Less than 5 minutes, possibly 10 minutes maximum?

When you consider that you literally have minutes to impress someone and stand out from the rest in the online dating scene, don’t you agree that more time and effort should be put into writing an online profile?

If you are an online dater, I’m sure you will agree with me that when you are searching for a partner online you will first of all look at the profiles with photos and, secondly, you will look at the profiles where people have taken the time to write something about themselves. So if you have no photo and/or an incomplete and uninformative profile, don’t be surprised if you inbox isn’t full to the brim with messages!

I’m going to share a few tips with you to get you started writing an eye-catching profile. Once you’ve read them take some time to think about what you are going to write and jot down some quick notes before hitting the keyboard.

1. Grab a friend

If you don’t like writing about yourself or think you are going to get writer’s block it’s a good idea to enlist the help of a friend; the kind of friend who is always saying to you “I can’t understand why you’re still single, you’re such a catch”. Ask your friend what your star qualities are and he or she will come up with a million and one positive things about you which you would have never thought of or dared to say about yourself.

2. Strike a pose

The most effective way to get noticed online, is to include a photo. Choose a clear photo that shows in your best light and preferably smiling - it makes much better viewing!

3. Choose a fun username

This is the name which you will be known as by members on the dating site. I would advise you to use a name other than your real name to remain anonymous. Try and choose a name that is fun and reflects your personality, i.e. Sporty Sam or Disco Queen. Do not use a name which is sexually provocative or offensive.

4. Captivate your audience

Make your profile really stand out so that any person reading it will think “Wow, I have to get to know this person!”

Online dating sites have made it easy for you when completing your profile by providing drop down menus for basic questions such as your appearance, lifestyle, hobbies but you will also be given additional space to write something yourself. Use this space wisely to provide a more detailed description about your personality, your interests and what you are looking for. The key is to be confident and talk positively about yourself without coming across bigheaded.

5. Don’t leave an empty space

If you feel you have covered everything by answering the profile questions – please do not leave the additional space blank or write “ask me”, “tell you later” or “I don’t know what to say”. Members will see your profile and think you’re either not serious about dating or that if you can’t be bothered to put some effort into writing a profile you will have the same approach in a relationship – effortless! Instead extend on the information already provided, for example, if you have stated you like travelling talk about some of the places you have visited.

6. Ask questions

If there is a particular place you visited and fell in love with, ask anyone who has been there to get in touch with you so you can reminisce together. Asking a question in your profile makes it easy for other members to respond to.

7. Be Honest

Don’t lie about interests; you will get found out! For example, don’t say you love long walks in the countryside if you really like to dance the night away in nightclubs every weekend. You’ll attract the wrong person and waste both of your time.

As with any other kind of dating, it is always best to be honest from the start so answer all questions honestly and finding your perfect match will be much easier!

8. Show your funny side

I think if you can make someone laugh or someone makes you laugh, you’re on the path to a good relationship. Show people that you have a sense of humour, e.g. talk about a scene from one of your all time favourite comedies and you may strike a chord with someone else who found the same thing just as funny as you.

9. Dream a little

Write about your dreams and ambitions. If your dream is to travel the world but you haven’t quite got round to it there may be someone out there who would like to share this experience with you. If you’ve been lucky enough to fulfil your dreams, share your story with other members.

10. Don’t mention the ex!

Ok, so you may have just come out of a relationship and be feeling sad and lonely but don’t write about it. It will put a lot of people off and you may come across desperate, which is not an attractive trait. Make online dating a new start for you and promise yourself not to dwell on past relationships.

11. Your expectations

What are your expectations from joining an online dating site? Tell people the kind of relationship you are hoping to find but don’t say you are looking for marriage if you are really looking for a casual fling and vice versa. Again, you will waste both of your time.

12. Write a chapter, not a book

By this I mean, don’t tell your whole life story in your profile. I encourage you to provide as much information as possible about yourself but use short bursts of information, sectioned by paragraphs, rather than writing a long essay so whoever is reading it is intrigued to find out more about you.

13. Be safe

Finally, do not include any personal information in your profile, e.g. your e-mail address, home address, work address or telephone number. A reputable dating site will remove any personal information before it appears live on site; this is to ensure that they provide you with a safe online dating environment.

Once you’ve completed your profile, read through it or ask a trusted friend to read through it and ask, would you reply to this person? If yes, it’s all systems go. If no, look at the areas where it can be improved until you’ve created that winning profile. It may take longer than 5 or 10 minutes but the results that will show in your inbox will be worth it!

About the Author: Alison Edwards runs http://www.SnappyDates.com/ a UK based dating site. If you are stuck for ideas about your online profile, members of SnappyDates.com can write to Alison at Alison@SnappyDates.com for advice on how they can improve their profile.
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Online Dating Is New Kind Of Dating

Online Dating Is New Kind Of Dating
By Julia Tanner

A Net dating service, also known as online dating, is an example of a dating system and allows individuals, couples and groups to meet online and possibly develop a social, romantic or sexual relationship. Net dating services provide unmoderated matchmaking through the use of personal computers and the Internet.

Such services generally allow people to provide, then search for other individuals using criteria such as age range, gender and location. Uploading photos of themselves and browse the photos of others is allowed for members. Sites may offer additional services, such as online chat, message boards and web casts. offered services require a monthly fee but sites sometimes allow people to register for free and trial for free.

Mostly there are broad based sites, with members from a variety of backgrounds looking for different types of relationships. Other sites are more specific, based on the type of members, interests, location, or relationship desired.

Problems with Online Dating Services is that there can be a variety of problems with using online dating sites. Some sites expect members to sign up "blind", with no preview of the type of profiles they will get to see. On other sites, some profiles are not actually real people, but a bait put there by the site owners to attract new paying members. Other dating sites have received several complaints of this tactic. Some users spam sites with fake profiles that are in reality advertisements to other services, such as prostitution. A majority of dating sites keep profiles online for months or even years since the last time the person has logged in, thereby making it seem as though they have more available members than they actually do. Many sites offer the option to sort search results based on activity, however. Most sites still have significantly more male members than female.

Most members are enticed to join dating websites with free or low-priced "trial" memberships advertised on many other websites. These trial memberships lack many of the features of the full membership, including the ability to contact other members or reply to e-mail from other members. On sites which require credit card information to join at all, these trial memberships often automatically become full memberships at the end of the trial period and charge the full monthly fee, without any additional action from the member and regardless of whether the member has actually used the services or not. For paying members, it is often unclear whether a potential contact has a full subscription and whether he or she will be able to reply at all.

Even when members' profiles are "real", there is still an inherent lack of trust with other members. Many members misrepresent themselves by telling flattering 'white lies' about their height, weight and age, or using old or misleading photos. Members can, of course, ask for an up-to-date photograph before meeting others. Predators on line find online dating sites especially attractive, because such sites give them an unending supply of new targets of opportunity for fraud in the Internet.

Some sites cater to people with special interests (e.g. sports fans, nerds), professions, political preferences, ethnic groups, conditions (e.g. HIV+, obese), or religions.

Sites for matrimonial are a variant of online dating sites, and these are geared towards meeting people for the purpose of getting married. Gross misrepresentation is less likely on these sites than on 'casual dating' sites. Casual dating sites are often geared more towards short term (and implicitly sexual) relationships.

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Correctly Dating By Matchmaking Using Computers

Correctly Dating By Matchmaking Using Computers
By James Brown

Some people feel inferior when they visit nightclubs and try dating men and women that they meet while dancing or other forms of socializing. They have to rely on the information that the person tells them and might not know if it is true for a very long time. Some people do not like this feeling very much and choose to start correctly dating by matchmaking using computers.

Several matchmaking sites ask daters to answer all sorts of questions for a very good reason. These questions are to be answered honestly and some critical thinking might be required to be able to provide an answer with some honesty. To correctly date with the help of a matchmaking computer, a dater must provide answers to all questions and some people do not want to answer some of them.

The questions center around all parts of a persons personality and then delve into their values. Some people tend to get quite paranoid after many of these questions are answered because they can get very personal. These answers are meant to drive people to bear their souls and provide answers that they might not want anyone else to know.

This type of matchmaking will allow computers to pair people up in many areas of life. Since marriage is usually the sought after goal, it helps to know that the person you have been matched with has answered as honestly as the other person has even if it means mentioning things like stealing when they were a child. This starts the ball rolling on couples building trust and accepting the faults that they find in people who they might have met through an internet connection and the matchmaking website.

Some online matchmaking daters are pleasantly surprised when they talk to a person that filled out a profile for the first time. Each of them knows in a instant that they have so many things in common because a computer program told them so before they made the first contact. Using matchmaking computer programs to sort through the quagmire of possible dates alleviates a lot of stress on daters who are tired of the bars and unfulfilled dreamers that they dated.

Many matchmaking pursuits go faster than some people are comfortable with but since they were honest at the start, it is a good bet that the other person will be willing to wait a while before pushing further to meet the person in real life. The matching techniques will be tested repeatedly to see if the person is the right one and most often these matchmaking programs have picked the right person and it only takes time for the other person to know it.
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